Do Not Let Your Frustration Spill Over To Your Children

Your children do not deserve to be the target of your frustration, your anxiety or other negative experiences you have in your daily life.

It is easy to yell at them, get angry or even punish them for no reason.

You may not realize that they are not to blame for how things in your life have developed or how frustrated you are with a situation that happened between you and your partner, for example.

You can not blame anyone for everything that happens to you, especially not your children.

The risk of directing your anger at those who least deserve it

Sometimes letting go of your frustration with your children can be a way to release your unspoken feelings and unspoken words. Maybe it’s because you want to act calm and united in front of your boss, since you’re afraid of losing your job. Or maybe it’s because there are some accepted things in your partner’s behavior that you secretly do not like.

All of this and more can cause you to explode with anger around those who least deserve it.

In addition, you can choose someone who can not defend themselves and someone you have power over.

If they argue back, you can use the authority you have over them, even if you do not escape the fact that you are beginning to lose control of the situation.

You must not always hold on to negative emotions. They must at least be aimed at the right person. Try to find the right words, be respectful and focus on the given context. Do not hold back on anything you know is going to come out in the end.

If there is something your partner is doing, do not put up with it and do not say anything in the hope that he / she will stop it one day etc. If you never say anything, how will it change? Life is not a guessing game …

Children suffer the consequences of your frustration

Releasing your fears, anger and frustration towards your children can have a very strong impact on your life. On those who are going to learn from you how to behave towards other people. The less you have the ability to solve what frustrates you, the greater the frustration and the more you focus on them. The children will not understand why a small mistake they made turned into a big drama in the end.

If this situation persists over time, if you are unable to stop and realize that your behavior does not solve the cause of the problem, this can be passed on to your children and cause them to have low self-esteem and a poor self-image.

Good self-esteem is important to have, but if you look at everything in your life in the dark, then you can observe that the same thing happens to your children.

Before you know it, you’re promoting  negative reinforcement. This makes them feel that everything they do is wrong. But what about the things they did well? You do not notice them.

Even though they are young now, they grow up one day and then they can have serious problems – not only can they have a bad self-image and self-confidence, they can also hold themselves back and not follow their dreams. Such attitudes can also hinder personal relationships.

It is not the fault of others, raise your children in a good way

You may think that the fault lies with the boss who does not treat you the way you deserve or your partner who is not caring enough. It’s time to change your mindset.

The fault does not lie with others, but with yourself. You are responsible for how you deal with and react to what happens to you. And it is your choice who you release your frustration on.

By not expressing your feelings (to the person concerned), remaining silent and assuming that others will change their behavior, you allow the situation to remain as it is.

Put your fears and insecurities behind you and be free to express yourself. Start by making good decisions and dare to tackle what frustrates you.

Once you begin to get along with yourself, you need no one to press down to feel better.

It is not your children’s fault that others are doing bad things to you. You need to take the first step towards a healthier upbringing, by letting go of the frustration and fear before you go home.

Focus on the moment and take the initiative when you have to. Do not hold back anger and frustrations: let them go and you are free.