Advice On How To Find And Make Real Friends

They say that true friends can be counted on one hand. They are the people who are always by our side, who listen to us and who bring out the best in us. They are on an exclusive list of friendships. In this post we will talk about what you can do to identify them.

What do real friends do?

For some, it is easy to identify who are their true friends, and who are just by their side for their own interests or hidden reasons. And that’s because true friends do things for us that everyone else does not. If you have a handful of people by your side who do the things we list, you’re in luck!

1. True friends increase your confidence

When you feel down, they let you out, scream, cry or talk for hours. And in the end , they highlight all your abilities and positive aspects, so you can feel better. A good friend is always looking to boost your confidence and mood, even in your worst moments.

2. They support you

No matter what decisions you make, they are always there to follow you on the path you choose, even if they do not agree with your choice. They give you their support through a message, an afternoon together, a hug or through a gesture, as a gift or a card.

3. Real friends really listen to you

This is probably one of the main characteristics of true friends. When we say that they “listen to you”, we mean that they pay attention to everything you say, whether it is repetitive, pessimistic, if you are overwhelmed with happiness or full of anger. True friends can spend hours by your side (or on the other end of the phone) listening to you complain, insulting someone, laughing, telling a story in great detail, and so on.

4. They make you feel comfortable

When you are with a good friend, there is no need to pretend to be someone you are not. When you are with real friends, you do not have to fake anything or try to impress them. With them you can talk without paying attention to what you say, you can show them who you really are and actually feel comfortable, just like at home, without wearing a mask.

5. True friends help you

When you have to make an important decision and you are not sure about it, you probably call your best friend so they can give you their opinion. Or maybe when you have to do something you do not feel prepared for, you seek help from that special person.

True friends give us valuable recommendations that come from their perception of the situation. They give us an ear, hugs, a hand and our feet when we need them. They also help us find ourselves again when we feel a little lost. If things are not good, for whatever reason, they are our “rock”.

6. They set aside time for you

True friends do not give us excuses when it comes to spending time together or talking, since they will always hang out with us. It is true that we all have our commitments, work and things to do but you will realize that if the friendship is real, that friend will always find time to meet you.

Some phrases that real friends use:

• “I have 15 minutes to have coffee between work and school.”
• “I have to go to the doctor. When I leave, I stop by to say hello. ”
• “Do not make plans for Thursday night, we are going out to eat.”

On the contrary, if someone is always busy, always canceling plans or always making it impossible to hang out, this person may not be interested in having time for your friendship. This is not a bad thing at all, perhaps they are going through a difficult time. However, it is likely that you should not consider this person as an unconditional friend.

7. True friends tell you the truth

It is very important that you surround yourself with people who are honest and sincere. That’s because it’s not good for you to be surrounded by people who just tell you what you want to hear. If a dress does not look good on you, a true friend will tell you. Just like they think your boyfriend is not right for you, they will not be able to hide it. If they think you are making a bad decision, they will be the first to tell you.

Sincerity is very important in a relationship (friendship, partners, at work). Because of that, it’s worth it to have friends who always tell you the truth, even if it can hurt you.

8. They respect you

True friends do not “link” you to them so you are always by their side. They understand that you have other things to do and other people you need to spend time with. They also respect you if you want to be alone, for whatever reason. Respect is very important in a friendship. This includes, among other things, respecting one’s personal space.

9. True friends forgive you

A true friend knows that you are a human being and that you can make mistakes. Because of this, if you show remorse for something you said or did, they will have no problem forgiving you. True friendship includes forgiving mistakes, forgiving them from the heart, and prioritizing the great relationship and time you share.

10. They make you a better person

If you want to have real friends, you have to learn to give. It’s because you can not receive what you are not willing to give. Friendship does not work if only one person makes an effort, both people are responsible for the growth and development of emotional bonds. This applies to all types of relationships: partners, family, work environments, etc.

When it comes to true friends, if you want to keep them by your side, you have to work for it. This means that you can not always be the speaker, you must also listen. That you must be respectful and honest, that you must help them to be a better person. That you must be by their side in every situation and offer them your point of view to help with their growth.

So if you do everything we have mentioned to your friends, you will become one that they can trust and that they will always spend time with.