Mothers, Let Your Instincts Guide You

Who has not experienced the fear of not being a good mother? Asking yourself such questions is normal. But do not worry too much, for your instincts will always give you the answers.

There are countless books and experts that will help you feel safer when it comes to raising children.

But… how did your grandmothers do it when all that information did not exist? The answer is simple. They just followed their instincts.

Nature is wise

Nature is wise, and if you listen to your instincts, you will not doubt what should be done.  However, societal perceptions and taboos have become ingrained in the value of all this.

Think for a moment. When you hear your baby crying, what’s your first impulse? To ignore them or comfort them?

It is true that a crying baby can be very annoying. However, this has a purpose, and no – we are not talking about whether they have an upset stomach or gas.

We refer to the fact that sometimes a child feels lonely or uncomfortable because of something. Being small does not mean that they are not aware of what is happening around them.

Your instincts are wise, but your head will be filled with tips and advice from friends, relatives or books.

For example, some people say that if you go to your baby as soon as they cry, they will not learn what it means to wait for their wishes to be satisfied. Or it could be that they are trying to manipulate you.

Maybe you  should follow your instincts, while recognizing that the child sees or experiences something that you cannot see thanks to all the clutter in your mind.

Mothers, slaves of the clock

Is it true that mothers only “know” that they need to breastfeed their children every three hours? And who decided it would be like that?

Children are not allowed to demand the need to take care of themselves. After all, we eat at certain times, even when we are not hungry. What if we only let our children eat when they are hungry?

Without realizing it, you become a slave to a schedule that does not have to be that way. What happens if your child cries for food outside of that time frame? It will require a real effort not to give in. This also puts an end to your instinct.

You have a lot of information, but that does not mean that you should accept everything as absolute truth. Each case is different.

It is very difficult to let go of an ingrained belief, but it is important if you want to learn to listen to your instincts, which are very wise.

Their instincts know no guidelines

Instinct does not know any of the things we believe in that we have talked about, although there are many others that are not fulfilled by animals in nature.

For example, many people recommend breaking the habit of sleeping with your baby and putting them in the crib instead. They claim that holding them in their arms all the time can make them too used to it.

All this limits us from doing what is built inside us. If you stop being in touch with your child, they will begin to notice it.

The love of a mother is expressed in a way that knows no boundaries or rules. Do not limit or suppress yourself. Nothing you have been told is completely true.

One way to eliminate all those beliefs is to think about what you liked or did not like about your own parents. It will help you to be guided a little more by your instincts.

Of course, do not fall into the trap by going to the opposite end of the spectrum, because as you know you can cause the same damage.

Search within yourself, let your instincts guide you, and do not hold back from showing your child love through hugs, physical contact, and worry whenever you want.