Time Does Not Delete Things, It Puts Them In Place

Contrary to popular belief, time does not erase things that are bad memories of themselves. Complicated experiences do not resolve within just a few months or years.

Time is not a passive means that acts as an eraser that gets rid of everything that is unpleasant. It’s because the passage of time is linked to your thoughts, especially your special way of creating your reality.

A mind that is obsessed with traumatic events is not able to move forward, even after 5 or 10 years. When you cling to something, time will not pass.

You have to understand that what the pages on the calendar will do is, as the months go by, put everything in place.

The things that hurt you should stay in the past and stop bothering you. Things that are important, that give you strength, energy and happiness, are the things that should be your partner every day throughout life.

Today we would like to give you some simple strategies to make your mind your best lifesaver, your best weapon to heal your wounds.

Time and memories, the best sculptors

Memory and neuroscience experts tell us that the more you evoke a memory, the more you modify it. This does not necessarily mean that you change it, or that you completely change its original image.

But what happens is that the more you hold on to a picture of the past, whether it’s good or bad, the more you intensify your emotions, and the more it affects you. The more it changes the present.

Let’s use a classic example: An emotional breakup. Even if 5 or 10 years have passed, you continue to go back to your previous years, where you regret, perhaps because you did not fight enough, or because you were not what the other person wanted you to be.

When your mind begins to cling to a very specific point in the past, you stop investing in yourself in a full and healthy way.

• The past is not a stage where you can start your own struggles, where you can sink your energy into. The past just does not exist. But the present, here and now, is what you can touch and see.
• You have to put everything in place. Time is what helps you do this, combined with your own will and wisdom.

Each person in their place, each memory in its own moment

People spend their days remembering things. We are the result of our experiences, our educations, our societies and our own feelings and values. We have integrated them into our minds over the years.

You can say that time itself is what has molded you. But this picture will give a pretty passive picture of you.

Because the truth is that what you are today is created by your own interpretations that you have formed from everything you have seen and lived. You are not a passive agent.

• The same moment lived by two different people is experienced in two different ways.
• It is common for two siblings who grew up in the same family environment to remember the same thing in different ways.
• If someone clings to a traumatic event forever, their life becomes rooted in the past, to the point that they lose the present.
• However, the other sibling pair managed to overcome this incident, thanks to a more combative attitude. They are able to leave certain things from the past behind, by overcoming them to create a healthier present with strength and courage.

Use your memory as a trampoline, not as a couch

Time does not heal you if you do not look for medicine. Time does not edit the bad moments in your life to turn them into good ones. Time only passes the days, months and years.

You are the one who must fill life with movement and significant, happy and full moments. Therefore, you need to use the memory there as a trampoline, not as a sofa.

• If something has hurt you in the past, do not hold on to this mind. Do not hate. Be able to close this wound to focus on the important things: living and being happy.

• If you live on your memories, your well-being is centered in the past, and you are connected to a sense of self-confidence that is not real. Here and now is what is important, and this is your real self. This is what you should pamper and nurture in every moment of every day.

Turn your memory into something that motivates you to do something, the reason you are fighting for your present